My struggle with confidence is something that has followed me for as long as I can remember. As a young girl it was things like putting my hand up in the classroom to answer a question, later on it was applying for jobs, and now it is writing on this blog. There is always that voice of doubt inside.
Top: Bershka / Trousers: Alexander Wang / Jacket: Asos / Shoes: Mango / Bag: Louis Vuitton / Sunglasses: Miu Miu
Don’t get me wrong, I have been writing a lot… there are so many unpublished drafts that have yet to be completed. But I get this voice in my head telling me that I can’t blog about fashion or food or lifestyle because there are so many other blogs out there already. That voice tells me that I shouldn’t share pictures of my clothing choices because I’m not a tall beautiful model, and what do I know about fashion? Who really cares about what I am wearing other than myself?
That’s why it takes me so long to blog. My attitude & mindset telling me that I can’t do it. Telling me that I will fail. And up until recently, I just accepted this as who I am. I accepted those thoughts as the standard everyday me. But now I am realising that it doesn’t have to be at all.
I’ve written myself a few reminders on letting go of that voice and to stop fearing what other people might think. Perhaps they help you too.
We are all only human, there is no such thing as perfection
There is no such thing as the perfect person, the perfect moment, or the perfect picture. If you wait for the perfect time to do anything, you’ll remain stagnant. I need to let go of this idea of perfection, other people’s opinions and just do what I want to do. I think it’s quite humbling to remember that everyone is the same. We are all human, there is nothing to be afraid of.
Everything that happens (or does not happen) to me is my responsibility
This one is something that has been on my mind a lot over the past few months. I think that it’s easy to let things just happen to us whilst we remain as a passive observer, and I have definitely been a victim of that cycle. Really understanding that I am the only person that has the ability to make things happen in my life has made waking up in the mornings a lot easier. I am the only one that can make any effort to change things in my life.
Life is too short to live in hindrance
We are all going to die someday. Whilst that might be a sad thought to some, I’ve decided not to see it as sad. I’m using it as a reminder and kind of mindset that I can’t just let these days pass me by and to be always thinking “what if?”. It just doesn’t make any sense. We are on this planet for such a short amount of time that we need to make the most of it. The negative thoughts in my head mean absolutely nothing.
So with those thoughts in mind, screw it! I have made the decision to push myself, take responsibility of my confidence, and do what I want to do to get where I want to be.
Thank you for reading. x